“I feel confidence has replaced uncertainty, there’s nothing there except ease and light. Where there once was continual discomfort, now I’m calm, comfortable and feeling generally good”
– A, TV & Film Production – A sense of not being complete
There are many different paths that lead people to seek therapy…
I feel stuck and I need help to get moving again
I am constantly on edge
I’m tired of all the highs and lows in my life
I’ve been spiralling down to a bad place
I’m lost and looking for guidance
I want to find a new direction
I am struggling to keep my head above water
Something huge has happened or is about to happen and I don’t know where I stand anymore
I feel like something is holding me back
I’m carrying lot of stuff from my past and I need help to make sense of it and move on
Meeting you where you are
Everyone has their own starting point and it’s my job to meet you where you are now. Perhaps your journey begins by finding a safe place before you even consider where you want to go. Or by taking an honest look at where you really are now. The path you will be called upon to walk is yours and yours alone. I will not attempt to prescribe a generic way out of your issues that has nothing to do with your personal situation. Nor will I guide you onto a path that is not truly yours but fits into a prescriptive therapeutic methodology. The path that is right for you is a path of truth, your truth. I will not walk it for you. What I will do is guide you along the way and if necessary challenge and help you to continue if things are hard.
Will you say yes to the adventure?
This work is not about sticking your head in the sand and denying reality.
This is about finding your truth and following your true path.
Sometimes straight talking will be the best way forward.
The question that remains is are you going to say yes to the adventure?
The adventure of being truly alive.
Why choose me as your therapist?
People will tell you that the most important element in choosing a therapist is the connection between you and them. Whilst this should play a part in the decision I think that having an understanding of the central principles underpinning your therapists approach is pretty important too. Your therapist should be able to explain these in a way that is easy for you to understand, without resorting to jargon or fobbing you off.
The following principles are the foundations of the work I do. They may be a reason to work with me, they may also be a reason not to work with me.
I’ll leave it for you to decide.
I work with the unconscious mind
Most of the problems that people bring to me emerge from the part of the minds that is outside of their conscious awareness. This part is not so interested in logic and language, this part is more concerned with images, stories and feelings.
My clients are all intelligent and creative people, if they could have thought their way out of their problem they would have done already. In my experience the work is usually aimed towards the part of the mind that creates the problem in the first place. That’s why I use metaphor, stories and guided imagery as well as talking.
This is modern therapy
Whilst the foundations of the work are fundamentally the same paths that people have walked for thousands of years, I take a modern approach, integrating cutting edge techniques help you to explore your consciousness.
I understand the pressures of modern life and my approach is flexible to fit around this. Ultimately you will be in control of the direction we take and you set the pace.
This is not an excuse to be uncommitted to the work. If you really want change then the process will demand commitment from you but I will treat you like an adult.
I treat everyone as an individual
Whilst there are many things that unite us in being human, every mind is different and unique. There is no right and wrong there is only what you do and if that works for you (and the other people around you).
It is very important to my work to always treat people with respect.
The work we do will be bespoke to you, I will not try to shoe horn you or your problems into a pre conceived treatment plan or methodology.
My work is change focussed
I am predominantly concerned with therapeutic change. I aim to help you to get the the place you want be.
This varies from other practitioners who are more focussed on care and support. I do care and my clients feel supported but it is not my primary focus.
This gives the work a natural direction and avoids it being open ended.
I am directive
What this means is that I will play an active role in guiding where we go in the session. I will say what I think.
This doesn’t mean that I give my clients advise on how to solve their problems but I also won’t just sit there listening the whole time letting you talk and randomnly saying “how does that make you feel?”.
If I think that it will help the client I may use provocative techniques. This will always be underpinned by kindness, consideration and the clients best interests.
Many of my clients say that they appreciate my straight forward and straight talking approach.
I work to brief therapy timescales
After the first couple of sessions they are usually spaced out rather than every week. This gives you a chance to incorporate the work we have done into your daily life with text and email support in between.
If you are committed then change is possible within a relatively short period of time – many clients report significant change within 3-5 sessions – some clients then choose to go and live their life, returning if and when something comes up. Some choose to continue exploring the internal landscape of their mind, often on a monthly basis.
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anyone who wants to change their mindset and/or behaviour would benefit from working with Ben. I’ve experienced a change which has helped my target problem areas in my life and a personal growth that has given me more confidence than I ever thought was possible”
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bad memories seem to have been erased, I feel confidence has replaced uncertainty, there’s nothing there except ease and light. Where there once was continual discomfort, now, I’m calm, comfortable and feeling generally good”
Not sure where to start?
These are some common setting off points
The process of working with me always starts with a conversation, whether this is in person, on the phone or online.
During this completely confidential conversation we will discuss how we can work together and how you want to change your life.
There is no charge for the initial conversation. It takes 30-45 minutes.
I work out of comfortable and private rooms in Palmers Green and Haggerston and with clients who are unable to travel to London online.
Sessions last 2 hours and cost £125.
After the first couple of sessions they are usually spaced out rather than every week. This gives you a chance to incorporate the work we have done into your daily life with text and email support in between. I encourage my clients to play an active role in facilitating their change and often give them tasks to do in between sessions. If the client is committed then change is possible within a relatively short period of time – many clients report significant change within 3-5 sessions – some clients then choose to go and live their life, returning if and when something comes up. Some choose to continue exploring the internal landscape of their mind, often on a monthly basis.