No matter how you find yourself here
I feel stuck and I need help to get moving again
I am constantly on edge
I’ve been spiralling down to a bad place
I’m lost and looking for guidance
I’m in a dark and lonely place
I want to find a new direction
I am struggling to keep my head above water
I don’t know where I stand anymore
I feel like something is holding me back
I’m carrying lot of stuff from my past and I need help to move on
I will meet you where you are
Everyone has their own starting point. Perhaps your journey begins by finding a safe place before you even consider where you want to go. Or by taking an honest look at where you really are now. The path you will be called upon to walk is yours and yours alone. I will not attempt to prescribe a generic way out of your issues, nor will I guide you onto a path that is not truly yours but fits into a therapeutic methodology. The path that is right for you is a path of truth, your truth. I can not walk it for you. What I will do is guide you along the way and help you to continue if things are hard.
and help you find your way again…
Will you say yes to the adventure?
When many people experience mental distress they understandably try to get away from it. They hide or they hide it in an attempt to avoid discomfort and hope that this will solve their problems.
The truth is the complete opposite.
It is by exploring our discomfort that we find freedom from it. Whilst not easy, the journey of exploration doesn’t always feel bad. Just imagine every step, a step closer to freedom.
Why choose me as your therapist?
The following principles are the foundations of the work I do. They may be a reason to work with me, they may also be a reason not to work with me.
I’ll leave it for you to decide.
I work with the unconscious mind
Most of the problems that people bring to me emerge from the part of the minds that is outside of their conscious awareness. This part is not so interested in logic and language, this part is more concerned with images, stories and feelings.
My clients are all intelligent and creative people, if they could have thought their way out of their problem they would have done already. Our work is usually aimed towards the part of the mind that creates the problem in the first place. That’s why I use metaphor, stories and guided imagery as well as talking.
I am directive
I will play an active role in guiding where we go in the session. I will say what I think.
This doesn’t mean that I give my clients advice on how to solve their problems but I also won’t just sit there listening the whole time, letting you talk and randomly saying “how does that make you feel?”.
If I think that it will help the client I may use provocative techniques. This will always be underpinned by kindness, consideration and the clients best interests.
Many of my clients say that they appreciate my straight forward and straight talking approach.
I treat everyone as an individual
Whilst there are many things that unite us in being human, every mind is different and unique. There is no right and wrong there is only what you do and if that works for you (and the other people around you).
It is very important to me to always treat people with respect.
The work we do will be bespoke to you, I will not try to shoe horn you or your problems into a pre conceived treatment plan or methodology.
I understand the pressures of modern life and my approach is flexible to fit around this. Ultimately you will be in control of the direction we take and you set the pace.
This is not an excuse to be uncommitted to the work. If you really want change then the process will demand commitment from you but I will treat you like an adult.
People will tell you that the most important element in choosing a therapist is the connection between you and them. Whilst this should play a part in the decision I think that having an understanding of the central principles underpinning your therapists approach is pretty important too. Your therapist should be able to explain these in a way that is easy for you to understand, without resorting to jargon or fobbing you off.
"I went into it with skepticism
…however straight from the first session I felt better and more positive. I remember leaving the first session calling my wife straight away and describing everything we discussed. I would have never thought that the approach adopted would work in such an incredibly enlightening way.”
– RA, Finance – Stress, Anxiety & Struggling to Cope
"I went into it with skepticism
…however straight from the first session I felt better and more positive. I remember leaving the first session calling my wife straight away and describing everything we discussed. I would have never thought that the approach adopted would work in such an incredibly enlightening way.”
– RA, Finance – Stress, Anxiety & Struggling to Cope
